Relationships and heartbreaks

Heartbreak is not just about romance - it’s about how we handle expectations and change. And not all heartbreak comes from lost love - sometimes it’s the weight of expectations and the reality of change.

Care because it feels right, not because you expect the same back.
Hold on to yourself first, because everything else will shift with time.

 

Two simple rules can save you a lot of pain:

1. Care without expecting the same in return.

2. Remember that nothing external lasts forever, so build your strength within.

These apply not only to relationships, but to many areas of life in general.

1. Do not expect things back.
It is natural to put effort into something, but the recipient (whether a person or even a situation) may not return the same in response. This can cause disappointment. Care for someone because you genuinely care, not because you expect them to return the same feelings. Every person is an independent individual, and it is natural that they may or may not feel the same way.

2. Even if you do get the same care back, remember that nothing materialistic or external is permanent.
It may fade with time, whether slowly or suddenly. The only constant in life is yourself, so self-care and self-respect are essential. Give time to yourself first. If, at some point, giving time to another person feels as natural and beneficial as giving time to yourself, and they feel the same way, then it might be worth having deeper conversations about the relationship. Until then, it is best to keep things in a space of healthy friendship, without letting infatuation cloud your judgment.

Additional thought:
It is best not to take romantic movies as a perfect guide for real life. Films often end at the high point of a relationship, showing love as a victory, but rarely reveal the challenges and adjustments that come afterward. Real life is more complex. It is like watching a cooking show: the recipe looks perfect on screen, but in your own kitchen, results can vary. Keep your expectations natural and aligned with who you are, and you will be more open to discovering the real magic life has to offer.